A girl I know, who happens to be my best friend, was unhappy for the past few days. She had a relationship with this guy and it wasn’t going good. Suddenly, she broke it up and seemed strict in her decision. She had a strong reason. Nonetheless, within a day, they got back together.
The following day, the guy broke it up.
She called me twice that afternoon. I was at lunch and my handset was on my computer table. When I saw the missed calls, I called her back. She tried to sound casual but I sensed something was wrong. Before I could figure it out, she started to cry. And let me assure you: it was impossible to calm her down.
I’ve always been a loner. I don’t have many friends so don’t talk much. No girl (or boy) had ever called me and cried that way before. But she’s my best friend and, in that moment, it made sense to choose me as a listener. New to these situations, I hadn’t much to say, but still managed to soothe and ease away her cry. I waited and asked her not to cry. I reckoned I should let her cry. From what I’ve experienced so far, crying sets your mind free and lessens depression or shock.
When she recovered, she said the guy had broken up with her and that she couldn’t live without him. At first, I had nothing to say; it just sounded stupid. She was the one who broke it off before. Apparently, her boyfriend had addressed her in a despicable manner and she firmly decided never to go back with him. But when they talked again, she said sorry. Let me tell you why she did it.
She told me that she had a separate Facebook account that her boyfriend didn’t know of. She was active on that account and she would accept add request from almost anybody. When this hidden fact had come to light, her boyfriend became very angry and told her many bad things. (I could expose the word but I see it somewhat disrespectful for my friend.)
Then she broke up, but couldn’t stay for herself. I told her that it was definitely a mistake. ‘You should have told him as you knew that he’d be suspicious to know that you had a separate Facebook account.’ She did say sorry to him. But, in my opinion, what she heard from him was not fair in any way. So, I told her to wait till he comes back and is sorry for his words.
Huh! She couldn’t wait. She jumped back to her boyfriend’s lap and tried to get things back to normal. The result: he broke up the following day; hours before she called me.
I don’t think her relationship will last long because her boyfriend is too suspicious about her every move. She has to face tons of questionnaires among what ‘where have you been,’ ‘who were you talking to,’ ‘why were you talking to him (this could be anybody),’ etc are very common. And the most important of all was that the guy has understood that she can’t live without him. So, he stopped caring much about her as he started to think that whatever he’d do, the girl will keep coming back.
He was right, though. Few hours later, I talked to her again. She said, ‘I got things back to normal. It was too hard, though.’ I asked, ‘What normal?’ She said, ‘He has agreed to continue the relationship.’
I sighed. Right now I’m sure that the relationship she is in is at the edge of its existence. She has to face a deep shock and suffer great sorrow ahead. She has to cry a lot; more than she might be thinking of. Because this weak relationship is not going to last, at least, not after this incident.
What I know is she constantly asked him to get back in the relationship and the guy gave her a second chance. There were more things that made me angry at her. I came to know the following fact from her own words: she was interrupted by her boyfriend when chatting with anyone on Yahoo Messenger. Her boyfriend would suddenly show up and ask her to sign out and she had to sign out. I asked, ‘Why do you have to sign out?’ She said, ‘Otherwise he would never talk to me,’ to which I replied, ‘Then let it be. If he really loves you, he will talk to you. He has to talk to you. And it’s unfair that he won’t let you chat with your friends.’
The guy is sure that the girl will be coming back to her. There is no scope for him to do something to make her happier (notice that it’s comparative) and build more love in her heart for him. So, he is most likely to go away.
“I’m sorry, my friend. But this is how things work. You really shouldn’t have acted like that. Now he owns you. Now he doesn’t find any interest on you because you’re too much into him. Prepare for a sorrowful time ahead. You won’t be sorrowful for the rest of your life, though. But you’ll be hurt very badly. Stay ready for that.”
She just told me that he broke up again. This time the reason is that he doesn’t want her to go out with her friends. She said, she planned to go out with three of her friends on one’s birthday (I think I should note that they are all females ). The guy won’t allow her to do so. But she can’t miss it. They are her friends and you know how it feels to reject such a plan. As a result of that, they broke up again. Let’s see how long it takes for them to get back together again, in case that happens, of course.
As assumed, they are back together.
This post will no longer be updated because I try to follow and track down their relationship status, this post will soon turn into the longest post in the world. So, just imagine an endless loop of Update 1 and Update 2 which is happening in real.
Part of this post was edited by: Note to Self: Humanize. I’m thankful to her for the time she spent for editing the post.