How Do You Know if Anyone Loves You?

24 thoughts on “How Do You Know if Anyone Loves You?”

      1. Hmm… well you asked a lot of questions there, but the one I’d like to answer is your title; how you know if someone loves you. True love for me is when someone is ready to sacrifice a great deal for you, when someone cares for you truly and accepts you just the way you are. And even sometimes when there is somebody like that, that person might only see you as a friend (albeit a very good one). Because to me, love in its true form is same whoever you love – the difference with a lover is that there are a few more things involved than only love.

        I think that before anything else, the person who wants to express her feelings should first make it clear what she wants; does she only want to “get it out” or does she want to be involved in a relationship with that person? Cuz if she wants to express her feelings only for the sake of doing it, then it’s better not to. If she’s friends with that person then their friendship would be at stake. If she aims to create a relationship however, she should first analyze her feelings for that person and try to understand if she really loves him or not. And then she can tell him, but she should also be ready for a rejection. If she’s rejected, she should be able to deal with it without bothering him. And if he’s rude towards her, she should understand that he was never right for her in the first place. Cuz he doesn’t care about her feelings.


        1. You’re a step further. You’re saying, or I think that you’re saying, things that a girl should consider after she notices that a guy is in love with her. But what I wanted to say in the post is how would a girl notice that someone is in love with her? I mean, most girls won’t even notice unless there is a guy that she likes in the first place.


          1. No I wasn’t talking about a “girl” or a “guy”, I use “she” instead of having to write “he or she”, so it can be any sex. And no I didn’t talk about only after she has found out that he’s in love with her, I meant what she needs to look for. Love isn’t only those temporary flings of hormones, it’s much deeper than that. If a person sees that someone is ready to sacrifice and cares etc etc, then it’s a clue that maybe he loves her.


    1. Fairy tales aren’t always true. ;) Sometimes you just have to look around and analyze your friends’ faces whether there is someone who wants to approach you.


  1. well as a girl i think i make out the intention of the person in front by just a look!!! and there are many who try to be friendly to flirt!! i am not against your point!!! but fir some reason i feel comfortable to one stranger but not to other!! so i think the intention of any person has to be true!! if its so the girl knows!!!


    1. That’s all I’m saying. If you look, you may probably understand. But most girls won’t even look unless she likes him in the first place. But my logic is, it’s not always the girl who has to like the guy first. It can happen vice-versa as well.


  2. Okay the comment thread ended there so I’ll just reply here :P. That’s why I think you’re talking about deshi girls, they’re really rude… or maybe it’s cuz I have really bad experience of and with them :-/.


    1. Well, I’ve only been around Deshi girls only so ya probably. Not that I loved a lot of them but they didn’t notice which tempted me to write this post. ;) I just wondered and this is the fact here as you may know.


      1. The thing about Deshi girls – and I’m not generalizing, not talking about all Deshi girls, simply the type in question (maybe you know which type I’m talking about) – is that they’re arrogant in a way they’re not even aware of. Some of them do these things on purpose, others really see it as a game. I have friends myself who openly declare how they’ve “toyed with boys”. If you ask me I’ll say the boys should know better. Today you can’t go around wearing your heart on your sleeve, cuz the world has become damn tough so we need to toughen ourselves up as well. This does not make those girls’ actions right in any way, but to be fair guys have played games with girls since the beginning of time. Unfortunately whenever a girl does something it gets more attention than when a guy does it.

        My point is that amidst these false girls, it’s difficult to separate the ones that are really true from the ones who only think they’re true. We must always remember that everybody doesn’t know themselves as well as some of us do. So we shouldn’t blame nor judge, simply observe. Trust me, years of observing has taught me more than the classroom has about people. The more you observe, the more predictable people’s actions are gonna be to you. And then you can start analyzing and separating the true lovers from the players ;).

        Sorry… I’m in a bit of a passive aggressive philosophical mood here lol.


        1. You are right, I agree with you. I equally hate those guys who play with girls. But, like you said, the world has changed and nowadays when a guy does it, it’s more under the spotlight but when a girl does it, well, it happens, you know.

          I think the whole thing is too complicated. That’s why I didn’t dive into what-happens-next part. Listen first, act later. That’s what I wanted to tell. :)


  3. I am also currently experiencing it…

    But what makes me confused is, my current status : i already have a girlfriend…
    and sometimes I think, if she is really “the right one”?

    or this is just Love Addict?


  4. yah, i did just 2days ago, but, she(a very good friend of mine) didn’t refuse. she just made me her best friend. i am quite happy with that, but i exactly don’t know what she is up to. she has a family problem(conservative) that doesn’t allow her(as she said) falling in love with anyone, but i think it’s not like that. i think she doesn’t love me(though she told that she likes me so much). and my heart just beats and beats so fast now.
    what to do in this situation?? should i wait, as i want to?? and as she said that only and only if her family members get convinced then we can marry though she wouldn’t take any step for me, cuz her family members would be hurt if she does something like that. :( it’s quite complicated situation. :-(


  5. i love this girl very much.i have told her peer friend to help to talked to her how much i love her.but anytime they wat to tel about it she wil say she dnt wat hear about it.does it show she loves me.


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