You Can’t Just Come In, Make People Care and then Just Check Out!

9 thoughts on “You Can’t Just Come In, Make People Care and then Just Check Out!”

  1. An interesting post bhai. I’m not sure where to go with this one. Two things came to mind:

    First, you said TRY a lot. Maybe you just need to relax with everyone a little bit and remember you can’t solve everyone – or anyone’s – problem. In fact the best counselling advice suggest you shouldn’t try. Being there for someone is a good thing. Getting upset when they don’t need you right now isn’t.

    The second thing is, you’re young my friend. Part of this is part of that! With age (alas, I know) comes a little more wisdom and a lot more patience. Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a little while and then flutter out again – maybe forever. I’ve recently been finding a few people just like this who have come BACK into my life after years and years of no contact at all. It is good to have them back but, you know, they may be gone again soon.

    My advice is, let things ride, let people be what they want to be. If you like it, enjoy the time you have with them and appreciate them while you do – tomorrow they may be gone. If you don’t like how they are – back off from them – life is too short to get concerned about it.

    Last thought. No one can MAKE you do or think or feel anything. You are in control of everything about you. Your title is wrong – no one MAKES you care. You did that for yourself. Take responsibility for that and cherish it as a gift – knowing that can really empower you and this is something that businesses are beginning to cotton on to these days. You are your own boss inside. Whatever you feel – no matter how someone has pushed those buttons – is still under your control if you will take hold of that.

    Best wishes to you :)


  2. Lol… this is funny cuz I do this all the time. Or used to… or whatever… just trying to not to anymore. I open up and realize that I shouldn’t be opening up. For me it takes a lot to call someone a friend. In the virtual world, the friends I make… unless I eventually meet them in real life, I don’t see them as friends. Unfortunately some of them do, and I realize it’s because I opened up and they think that opening up equals to friendship. Maybe for them it is.

    It’s actually what I’ve written over and over in my blog… for people to be careful, that I’m ruthless etc. I’ve hurt people both intentionally and unintentionally doing this sort of things… and worse… and I’ve never felt regretful about it. At least not when it comes to the people I’ve done it to. The only thing I’ve regretted is opening up in the first place. So I think best advice I have for you is not to wear your heart on your sleeve. Cuz there are some really evil people out there…


  3. It’s a phenomenon that I am familiar with and that disgusts me from time to time. There are just too many people who absorb the lot of you and then just leave you hanging. This really is bad, but it happens to all of us. Now you might expect it would easy to just be superficial. Well, it isn’t. In any contact I make, I try to go deep. Even though half the times you get rejected or left. Those who stick around as a result of this are too valuable to risk missing out on a few new great friends.


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