Do you remember months ago I used to post about Express Bloggers that I was working on? I finally launched it although could not begin a campaign for its publicity. I got a few bloggers around the country. But the site is not so active yet.

Yesterday, I had the first media coverage of Express Bloggers. Fortunately, it’s The Daily Star, country’s most popular English newspaper. It was printed in its Sunday Magazine called “Star Campus”.

Click here to read the article on the online edition of Star Campus.

Express Bloggers BadgeI believe it’s the new beginning. Since most Bangladeshis are not comfortable with English, they don’t blog in English. You will find plenty of Bangla blogs hosted in self-hosting, blogspot, wordpress.com and the community blogs around. There are lots of English blogs as well. But as far as I know, there is no active English blogging community in Bangladesh. In our terms, we say, a community blogging platform is a single blog where hundreds or thousands of bloggers write posts on different topics. These blogs engage people more because they don’t have to do anything to bring traffic as the site is already busy with lots of people on board. So, as soon as you post a new topic, you start getting comments. It’s very awesome for interaction with like-minded bloggers and for newbies it’s faster to get known.

Making an English blog popular in Bangladesh is one of the toughest challenge. But I’m determined and have already taken the challenge. I believe, I can do this. I also believe, a belief can make miracles. I’m not waiting for that miracle to happen, though. I’m working hard to do a miracle.

One day, we will be the strongest community of English bloggers in Bangladesh and the world will hear us and get to know about us from our blog.

express bloggers on the daily star

Excitement Fades

When this morning I called my mother to my room to show that the site I made was featured on the daily newspaper, she was like, “Oh, okay.” 😐 The excitement didn’t seem to reflect on her. Because I have been working on newspapers (not the English ones), getting my writings published is not a new thing. But this time it was not me writing that stuff. It was one of my projects that I started working on earlier this year and have a big dream with it. But when I hadn’t found her happy, my excitement faded out.

The same thing occurred when about three weeks ago my writing was published on the English newspaper for the first time ever. While for me it was of great excitement, she seemed like nothing really happened. Excitement faded.

But yesterday was one of the biggest days of my life because getting my work published in a newspaper like The Daily Star is no small deal! I know the site has potential. I know it will grow insanely larger only if I can let maximum number of people know about us. And it was the first step to success that we got some media attention.

But my mother, she withdrew my excitement. I haven’t yet even told my father about it. Because I know he won’t be very excited with it either.

I sadly wish I had some family support. If I didn’t earn some money by working online (that’s the part-time job I do on a news agency), I would have been banned to use computer long ago. Thank God I at least earn some money to bear my internet cost and pocket-money. I don’t have family support that much. No encouragement. Nothing. Sometimes I feel like giving up every damn thing and just step back.

I fear of one day when I’ll be tired of my own self, tired of the people out there encouraging me, appreciating my work, but nothing from my parents. I fear of one day when I’ll just give up on everything. I don’t say I’m a creative guy. But again, I do believe I have something to make something different. Since my very own home does not encourage me to make something happen, I frequently lose the excitement.

I hope, my courage and wish to do great things don’t fade out totally because of this.

Link to Express Bloggers: http://www.expressbloggers.com

Written by A. I. Sajib

I love writing about technology, life, and everything between. I love photographing people. I'm a Happiness Engineer at Automattic/WordPress.com. The best way to get to know more about me is through my blog at http://ais.blog

21 comments

  1. I must add this, as well:

    Sajib, my parent don’t support my writing either. They never supported anything about my life choices that didn’t led directly to money. My father at one point, refused to pay my college degree on Graphic & Web Design because he said it’s bullshit. Only when I moved to Ireland, worked in web design and had a great paycheck did he said he was wrong.

    But now I gave up design to study Creative Writing. Imagine what he thinks of me? Bad things… to him I’m useless and only make bad decisions.

    I imagine it’s worst for you because you are male. That is, as a woman, I got married and that makes my father think ‘oh, well, at least she has a husband, her life is OK.” And his only wish now is that I give him grandsons. He doesn’t give me any credit for how much I’ve improved in english. He will only do that when I make money from my writing, a reasonable paycheck, no less than that.

    If I tell him I’m writing a novel he will laugh in my face and be to embarrassed to tell other people about what I’m working on.

    My father, in this matter, is not a good father. He only sees the present, the immediate action, he doesn’t have the ability to dream and reach for higher goals. He is a limited man. And I’m a female… it would be worst if I were a male.

    You, as male, have parents with higher expectations for their son. They only care about you having a career and, like my father, they can only grasp the immediate present. They only think about value related to quick money. We know that’s not the best way to go when you’re building a career. Quick money doesn’t give you the future and it’s not steady. Promising careers are build slowly, step by step, especially if they are a big challenge life writing in another language and moving to a new country like you intend to do.

    You are doing everything correctly. Keep going.

    You can have a steady job on the side, just to earn money, but still carry on your dreams and never give up. Save your money, think ahead, study english a lot, keep writing, and you’ll get there.

    Sajib: what you are experiencing may teach you a big lesson, probably the main lesson in adulthood.

    To grow up is to make our own decisions and be responsible for our own happiness, regardless of what parents think.

    πŸ™‚

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    1. It’s not only writing, but also web developing, a little bit of coding, practicing, etc. I don’t know why parents don’t understand that one can’t earn money overnight. You are right. If I manage to get a job to get lots of money, I will have no way to earn money once I lose that. On the other hand, if I gather experience and spend my time learning something, at the end I will get more money from a respectful job.

      They are grown-ups, still they don’t understand these simple things. And for a person like me, it’s very frustrating. You know, our old culture. I won’t even allowed to use a computer. Tell me how do I do regardless of what parents think? Here in Bangladesh, most parents develop the life of their children. And if the children try to do otherwise, they are, well, you know, left with no choice but to do what their parents say.

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  2. It’s not just in Bangladesh. When I lived with my parents my father never bought me a PC, I had to start working on a part-time job while still on school, to save enough money to buy one myself. He never bought me a cell phone either and I was old enough to have one. Afterward, I had to pay for my internet too. My husband had to pay for his internet as well, while he was living with his parents. Then, after several years, his little sister was born and she never had to pay for internet, cell phones or anything. I guess parents evolve with time, but some never do.

    While I lived with my parents I did as they said. If they didn’t buy me something I paid for it myself. I think you should do the same. Do as they say while you need them, because you live in their house. Gather money for whatever profession you have, while also studying in your spare time. When you have enough money, and now exactly what to do, and are old enough, travel to another country and get a job to pay for your expenses. Study abroad and follow your dreams.

    You are still young (15, 16?…), you still have a lot to learn about language, code, etc. Think one step at a time. Don’t rush things, don’t fight with your parents, plan your future, take close attention to how the market evolves, be patient, it’s the only way to make good decisions.

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    1. Some parents never change. Unfortunately, I am, in fact, most Bangladeshi people have such parents.They never bought me my cell phone or the computer, let alone internet bills and the likes. I somehow managed to buy them. But that doesn’t make any difference. Good that you already mentioned “I live in their house and study by their money”. This is enough for 99% BD parents to use their children as dolls. I’m sorry to say it like that but that’s the real fact.

      So far, that’s the only solution I’ve found to “live my life”. And it’s moving out. I said, I hope I don’t get tired of them. I didn’t mention ‘until I move out’. Fighting with parents? Well, I’m from a society that doesn’t hear such words. If I even argue, and stay on my track, I’m most likely to be kicked out of home. This is the most common threat in middle-class family parents. But my exceptional parents would not mind executing it.

      Just because I need some educational background, I’m still at home. Or else, I’d have gone long ago. But yes you are right. I’m going to follow that way.

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  3. Sajib, I suppose the culture and traditions of Bangladesh are similar to ours in Pakistan. If that is the case, then almost every parent wishes that their son or daughter (but son specially) ends up being either a doctor or an engineer. Showing signs that one is interested in literature, design, or anything creative would evoke disappointment from parents; they think their child is wasting time.

    Do not get disheartened with your parents’ lack of enthusiasm towards your achievements in the field of writing and coding. Take that as a challenge and prove to them that you have so much potential. In due time, your hard work will be noticed. And they will be proud of you, inshaAllah.

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    1. Did you say parents hope their son to be either doctor or engineer? Well, you need not say anything more. Your country is similar to ours. Proven.

      I don’t understand why parents try to build up their children’s career from their (parents’) dreams. And I don’t have any interest to research and find it out. 5th comment above describes the best way that I already planned to go through. Moving out is the best solution, at least, as of now.

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    2. Hey!! Thanks for registering on Express Bloggers! I greatly appreciate it.

      Hope to see your post there. πŸ™‚ Let your friends know who you think might be interested in community blogging.

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  4. Hello Sajib, I hope you are fine. Congratulate for your superb achievement. I would just like to express my thought about the current layout of this blog. Don’t know why but I liked your previous one. This version is Good but that one seemed better in my eyes..Anyway carry on your good work and work harder that you do all the time…….

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    1. I liked the previous one, too. In fact, that provided a fresher environment with better-looking and increased font. However, you know that was the default theme that comes with every WordPress installation or WordPress.com registration. That’s why I had to move on.

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  5. You should be proud of your accomplishments. I’m so very happy for you. This is great. Your parents may not support you but it is not their life to live. Don’t quit. Continuing doing what you love.

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  6. Hey, Sajib. Congrats.

    I faced similar problems. If a computer weren’t a part of education in my school and uni, I wouldn’t have one either. I got my cell phone rather late as well, and had to pay for it too. Actually, it’s been seven months since I got it. And they hated my obsession for writing and public speaking. They never let me go to national events even when my school wanted me to represent it.

    But, I respected them. I understood their larger plan.In this world, you first need to sustain yourself. After which you can move on to creative pursuits. I don’t agree with it. But, my parents did what they did to protect me. I’d probably have done the same if I were a parent.

    In my last two years at school, I fell sick. So sick, they didn’t even think it was pretence. I couldn’t even walk from classroom to classroom. But, everyday, I wrote. They feared that this wasting of time on writing would cost me my grades. That worried them even more because then I’d stop writing altogether and have no meaning in life. They even let me go for several national championships in 12th grade.

    My final grades came out respectable. My IELTS and SAT rocked. I did a couple of stints and proved to them that writing would pay my bills and maybe theirs too. And now, I’m pursuing a career in what I’m interested. I still find it hard to do certain things, but I’m happy and they are happy too.

    My parents know that I won’t take stupid steps. I topped in school exams and always had goals. They know that as long as I’m goal-oriented, I’ll be successful.

    Your parents are probably the same. You don’t understand them because you’re drifting apart. If they didn’t love you, they’d let you do whatever you wanted instead of prodding you to do something else. But they are worried that you’ll wind up broke. Bangladeshi parents have a lot of reason to worry about income. You’re from a middle class family. You can’t afford to be broke. They see that.

    Moreover, it’s hard for them to not celebrate your achievements. They want to. It’s just that, they don’t want to encourage you into doing what they think in inappropriate.

    You need to respect their worries. If you were a parent in Bangladesh, you’d be the same. So work hard on your goals and respect them too. There’ll come a time when they’ll love you more for fighting it out. Just don’t fight/argue with them. (I never did that with my folks).

    Tip: If you don’t think like a parent, they’ll never think like a teen.

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    1. Thanks for your comment. But I’d not be doing what they are doing with me. The world has changed. The generation has changed. Now every conscious parents first figure out what their child’s dream is, how much capable he is to achieve that dream, and then they give the guidance to that way.

      I see some parents who are like that. They are fewer in number, though.

      I’m not a good student. I admit that. But I’ve always scored the highest mark in English. My teachers, all the students would praise me. But when that day I came back home with my result, I don’t see that happiness or excitement in my parents’ eyes.

      You know the quality of English education in Bangla Medium schools here in Bangladesh. I put a lot of effort in improving English that’s why I get that much mark. But in my parents’ opinion, that’s nothing to be happy for.

      Thus, excitement fades out.

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  7. Maybe your parents are not just that showy when it comes to their support. Just don’t get discouraged because you’re indeed a good writer. You can still grow even bigger than what you are right now. Congratulations!

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