Past haunts. That’s something you’ve probably heard many times or experienced for yourself. But turning the haunting past into sweet moments and feeling good about them rather than being sad is somewhat challenging, which is something I’m pretty good at.
However, I still try not to remember the past as much as possible. But thanks to Facebook, some dialogues and pictures bring back the past, or what I used to feel in the past. Such a photo is embedded below:
What comes immediately after you read the “warning” above? It’s a girl speaking kinda rudely who by the judge of what she says appears to be somewhat possessive over her boyfriend. Now the question is, does everyone like a possessive-minded girl, or guy for that matter?
The answer depends and varies from person to person, I guess. Some people like to be free and independent. They put a good barrier between friends and girlfriends. If girlfriend whines at them about their female friends, they are easily annoyed and would probably break up the relationship.
But not everyone is the same.
Some people prefer their boyfriend/girlfriend to be possessive over them. They take it some sort of example of how much their partner loves them. Some people also abandon their friends for the sake of their partner, which is something I don’t agree with, while some others are smart enough to keep the balance between girlfriend and girl friends (mind the space).
I guess I’m at the point where I clear my position and tell the reader what type of “category” I fall in. Well, I’m not sure. This thought is what made me go back way 1.5 years back and remember how I used to feel. Funny thing is, after I “traveled” back in time, I felt how much I disliked the “warning” in the first place.
What I mean by that is on the title of this post. I didn’t like being called or referred to as “boyfriend” in the first place.
The thing is, these days teenagers get in and out of relationships so often that the term girlfriend/boyfriend became synonyms to me with something like “rotating partner,” which is not cool. I might have termed her as “girlfriend” while talking to my friends, but I never really called her that way. I mean, it’s complicated to describe. Especially when it’s past (regardless of the fact that you’re still hanging on to it) and you’re writing in a second language.
So, what it is that I like being called?
Loved one. This may not be the perfect term to refer to boyfriend/girlfriend, but that’s what I liked to hear.
What about you? Does the term girlfriend/boyfriend bother you at all?